Online Dating
for the Plus Size or Big Beautiful Woman
You look fabulous and want to go out. So here are three good
reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services
everyday:
(1) You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give
your real name, address, email address, phone number or place
of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so
but only at your own discretion and only when you feel
completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of
yourself. Or you may not have to share a photos until you are
ready. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to
your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the
dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.
(2) You have so many more choices online that you do in your
brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came
of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was
limited to those we came in contact with through college or
work. No more…the world is your oyster. You can go through
hundreds…even thousands of profiles to find the right man for
you.
(3) The “safety factor” is the biggest reason of all. An online
dating service will never reveal your personal information. You
get to choose who has that information and when they have
it.
Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience
for women of all ages and sizes. And with online dating
specialty sites such Big Beautiful Personals you can be sure
that the people there are not looking for thin fashion models.
No matter what, be sure to think of maintaining your safety
while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense
and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same
as real world safety rules.
You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a
strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you
should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know
this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you
give out any information that could make it possible for him or
others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you
work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you
are) for a mid-sized law firm….not that you work for Brown,
Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law on 220 South Ave. It is safe
to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any
more specific than that until you have been chatting and
exchanging emails for awhile and you feel comfortable giving an
address.
Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong
to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not
give out your ISP email address. If you must give out an email
address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your ISP
address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the
trouble.
When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face,
make that first meeting in a public place and during day light
hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on
your cell soon after the arranged meeting.
Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you
into revealing more personal information than you are
comfortable with revealing.
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