Relationship Break Up

Did They Do You A Favor?

Are you in the middle of a relationship break up? Does it seem like you cannot make heads nor tails out of your life right now? It's alright, calm down and listen. Getting through this will take some work but it is not an insurmountable obstacle and who knows, maybe your soon-to-be ex is actually doing you a favor.

If the relationship is ending, then it probably has not been the healthiest of relationships for a while. If the two of you have hung on for whatever reason for just this much too long then you may feel some sense of relief when it is finally all done.

When it is all done, give yourself a couple of weeks to a whole month to allow yourself to be yourself without trying to be someone someone else thinks you should be. You may find this aspect of your relationship break up very appealing, especially at the beginning.

When dealing with all the difficult emotions that will rear their ugly heads, try not to get too caught up in the mundane "chores" that need to be done. They may just seem like more of a "chore" if you have a break up on your plate, too. Leave the dishes another day, don't make the bed but make sure you get to work and pay your bills on time. Not doing some things will get you in more trouble and you just do not need that hassle.

I have a friend who had her relationship fall apart very suddenly, with no warning. It took her a long time to get her head around everything that was happening. Her ex just said it was over with no explanation or anything. That is the hardest thing to have to deal with, and it is not that common, most of the time we can see the end coming, even if we try to ignore the signs.

Being blindsided is the worst type of break up to have to deal with. Even if you are in a state of denial, you can see that there are issues and at least some part of you is gearing up for the break up. If you really don't have any signs it just makes it that much harder when it does happen, you have not had any time to "prepare".

Even so, you can make the whole situation a little better by spending your time concentrating on the things that make you happy. Whatever that may be, as long as it is a positive activity. Spending time with close friends is another great way to help yourself move on more quickly and with as little pain as possible.

The best way to do that is to only concentrate on your life day by day. Do not fall into the trap of thinking "I cannot imagine living the rest of my life without my ex". Instead only worry about getting through today. Tomorrow you will only worry about getting through that day, etc. By thinking only about the day you are living you can help get the most out of each day and you will not overwhelm yourself by thinking about the future which at this point is just too painful to think about, doing that will make the relationship break up a little easier to get through.