Tips For Dealing With Jealousy

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Have you found yourself in a relationship and constantly feeling jealous? Are you in a relationship now where you can't help but feel jealous? Feelings of jealousy come from being insecure. If you have low self esteem then you might feel that you are not good enough for your partner and worry that they will find someone more attractive. Your partner may not have done anything to make you jealous but it may be your state of mind that makes you lose confidence in yourself.

How you deal with jealousy will depend on what side of the fence you are sitting on. Is it you that is suffering from jealousy or do you have a partner that is suffering from jealousy?

If you have a partner that suffers from jealousy then you will need a lot of patience to get through this very difficult stage. It isn't easy to live with someone who does not trust you 100% and is always thinking the worst. It isn't easy to be interrogated every time you come home late or even look in the direction of another man or woman. It can get so difficult living this way that it can cause a relationship to break up. You need to decide whether the love you have for your partner is strong enough to work through this problem. If you decide that you love them enough and want to make the relationship work then you will need to help them resolve their issues. You can support them and love them through this time, but ultimately they need to resolve the issue and this might require counselling to help them see things differently. It can be a very difficult period but if you can resolve the issue it will be worth it.

If it is you who suffers from jealousy then you are probably aware that you have low self esteem and self worth. You may even be aware of some bad relationships in your childhood that have left you with these emotional wounds. Being jealous won't get your partner to behave any differently, only you can change these irrational feelings.

To stop these jealous feelings you may need to seek counselling. Self esteem issues can be deep rooted and you may need expert help to work through them. There are a number of good books that might also help you with your feelings and to develop some self esteem.

The feelings of jealousy will not just disappear; if you don't take steps to overcome these feelings then your relationship may not last. Even the most loving, patient partners can only put up with being accused of cheating so many times before they break. In fact, accusing them of cheating over and over again might actually lead them to do it. They might begin to think that if you are going to accuse them of it anyway they might as well do it.

Communicate with your partner and let them know exactly how you are feeling and why you feel that way. A good relationship should be able to get through difficult times like this and if you have an understanding partner they will support you through this time. Seek help to overcome your self esteem issues and soon you will be enjoying a loving relationship without constantly feeling jealous.